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“King Belshazzar made a great feast for a thousand of his lords and drank wine in front of the thousand.” (Daniel 5:1).

Belshazzar threw a party and invited his nobles. They ate, drank and were merry. When they used their own vessels at the feast, God did not trouble them. They could eat their own flesh and drink their own blood; so long as it was theirs and not God’s own.
However, when he stretched his hands to the vessels of God, God reacted.

“Belshazzar, while he tasted the wine, commanded to bring the golden and silver vessels which his father Nebuchadnezzar had taken out of the temple which was in Jerusalem; that the king, and his princes, his wives, and his concubines, might drink in them. Then they brought the golden vessels that were taken out of the temple of the house of God which was at Jerusalem; and the king, and his princes, his wives, and his concubines, drank in them. They drank wine, and praised the gods of gold, and of silver, of brass, of iron, of wood, and of stone. In the same hour came forth fingers of a man’s hand, and wrote over against the candlestick upon the plaster of the wall of the king’s palace: and the king saw the part of the hand that wrote.” – Daniel 5:2-5

And because he did not humble himself and repent, that night, he was killed.

“In that night was Belshazzar the king of the Chaldeans slain.” – Daniel 5:30.

God would always protect His own, provide for His own and build for His own.

Why would God kill a man because of ordinary cups?
These were not ordinary cups! They belonged to God; they were His!

God had put so much treasure into the cups; they had been sanctified, dedicated to God and separated for His use only. The cups were no more ordinary; they had been transformed by the purity of the Divine God into extraordinary vessels.

God invests so much into His vessels, that is why He would always rise to defend what belongs to Him.

If God so invested into inanimate objects and could kill for them, of more worth are you that fear His Name and carry His presence!

“But we have this treasure in earthen vessels, that the excellence of the power may be of God, and not from us.” – 2 Corinthians 4:7.

You are of greater worth than those cups. If God could kill a man because of cups, think what He would do to anyone that tries to harm you!

“He suffered no man to do them wrong: yes, he reproved kings for their sakes; Saying, Touch not my anointed, and do my prophets no harm.” (Psalms 105:14-15).

The cups had no power or say against the king; they could not resist his servants who picked them with ease. Many may think you are helplessly powerless and that they can pick on you, oppress you and get away with it. They are mistaken!! Oh how wrong they are!!! God is the same, yesterday, today and forever! He will fight for you!!!
Peter was so confident about this he said:

“And who is he that will harm you, if ye are followers of that which is good?” – 1 Peter 3:13

Its a question “who is he?” In “pidgin” English we will say “who be dat? Them never born am!” Meaning such a person does not exist and can never be born!

God will fight for you!!!

But… the cups belonged to Him. Do you really belong to Him? No, no, I’m not talking about going to Church for this is beyond that. I mean really belonging to Him. Dipped in the blood of Jesus Christ and living His life?
Those cups had no life of their own; God and His glory were their life. Do you own your life? Live for yourself? Fight to preserve your ego and self-worth? Or do you live humbly, for the One Who gave Himself for your sake?
The vessels, having no ambition, thought or desire of their own were wholly yielded to God and consequently enveloped in His glory.
It is the measure of your surrender and yieldedness that determines the measure of His presence or power in your life; which in turn determines how much attention you get from Him.

“Draw nigh to God, and he will draw nigh to you.” – James 4:8a.



The more of God you retain, the more His glory envelops you.

Imagine putting a cheque of fifty thousand Naira you would cash the next day, in a 1970 newspaper and the sum of five hundred Naira in a current edition of your favourite magazine. Coming home you find your children playing with the magazine and the newspaper. Which would you rescue first? The current edition of your favourite magazine holding the sum of five hundred Naira or the old 1970 newspaper holding fifty thousand Naira cheque you would cash the following day? I believe your deposit in the papers will determine which one you rescue first.
God loved all the Children of Israel carried to Babylon in the days of Daniel, but He was closer to Daniel, showed him more favour, gave him greater grace than others and granted for him to be called “a man greatly beloved” (Daniel 10:11), because Daniel “understood by books” (Daniel 9:2), he chose to retain God more than anything and was not ashamed to show it!
God will not leave you in the hand of the enemy if you retain Him in you.

“And even as they did not like to retain God in their knowledge, God gave them over to a reprobate mind, to do those things which are not convenient;” (Romans 1:28).

Your worth to God and heaven CAN be increased.


(1) Receive His Word. 

(2) Obey His word


(3) Build yourself on His Word.


Shalom.



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Gideon was a young man completely empty. He was empty of pride, status, power, ambition, influence, achievement, ego, power, etc. He was completely empty of self! Yet the angel of the Lord called him “mighty man of valour”!
There was something in him that he never knew was there! The call was for him to look inward and discover the beauty hidden in him.
Jesus said “the Kingdom of heaven is within you”. There is something in us that is waiting to be discovered. Until this discovery is made you cannot look beautiful and admirable to your neighbours. Again Jesus said

“Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself.” – Matthew 22:39

You have to first discover the measure to which you love yourself and extend the same to others. You cannot love others when you have not discovered the depth of love in you. To love your neighbour as yourself, you need to do a personal discovery first. It has to be in you, resident in you. Till you master yourself, your beauty, your worth does not come out!
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(1) DISCOVER YOURSELF
I discovered myself. That was how I became a pace-setter. I did not compete with any of the others as I knew I could not compare to them financially. While the others bought clothes that were in vogue and in magazines off supermarket rack, I went bending down for fairly used clothes at Yaba, Lagos. The clothes were neat, modest and fitting. I never allowed anyone to despise me for my mode of dressing. I was bright, smart and confident in my dressing, and carried myself as though my dressing was worth more than any other’s.
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As write this, I remember a song by Dolly Parton, “the coat of many colours”, in which she told the story of a girl whose mother was so poor she couldn’t afford to buy her any clothes. She could only stitch pieces of different clothes together and the girl wore it proudly everywhere, even to school. Though others laughed at her, she knew every stitch of that dress was made in love.
Like that little girl, I wore my clothes proudly. And why not? It is the man, the carriage of the man, that makes the cloth, not the cloth making the man. Before long, I noticed that others were copying me! When I began parting my hair, a neighbour laughed at me, called me odd and old-fashioned. I ignored her. One month later, it was the in- thing!
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(2) BE IN CHARGE!
I was responsible for my appearance! No one, no magazine and no situation dictated to me. I was lord and master of my dressing.
Until you charge, you are not in charge! In your life, you are first-class! Don’t surrender that first-class to the second-class of another person’s imagination.
The prodigal son almost missed it when he submitted his originality to the imagination and dictates of so called friends. They praised him, hailed him and he got swollen headed, lived their expectation, not his, and ended having the carpet pulled from under him!
Thanks to God, he discovered and became in charge of himself after the friends had left! (Luke 15:11-32)

“And when he came to himself ………” – Luke 15:17 KJV


This was the time he made the decision not to allow others rule his life. See the end; not only was he restored, he was given a ring, which signifies authority. Something his brother did not receive.
What about Jacob? He became unique after he wrestled with God, and lived no more by other people’s imagination. Not only was his name changed, he became a nation!
Discover yourself, and be in charge! Are you short, tall, fat or slim? What shape of face do you have; oval, flat, round, square? Do you have high-cheek bones? What is your skin type; oily, dry, etc.
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Your beauty is in your hands. Discover yourself and be in charge!

……… to be continued.


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Have you ever wondered what people see in you to want to be around you? Especially your spouse; husband, wife?
What if in ignorance you cover, douse or kill the thing, would they still want to be around you? That is what self discovery is all about.

Many a home would have been saved the pain of separation and divorce had the couples taken the extra time to really get to discover themselves. No, I’m not talking about the man studying the wife or the wife studying the husband. But the man studying himself and the wife studying herself!

Who we are is so often dictated by society and people around us. That was the life Jacob lived until God encountered him.
We seldom know the uniqueness of our being; that much has been hidden in us that needs to be discovered!

“It is the glory of God to conceal a thing: but the honour of kings is to search out a matter.” – Proverbs 25:2 KJV

I am sure its not everything in your city that you know or are aware of. You are a city! You do not know yet all you need to know about you. The human body is a complex machine. Self discovery is the key!

It is not actually a lack of radiant look that is the problem but a lack of personality! Until you are an original, you are not a personality and therefore not beautiful. You are just “another person, not “THE” person. And this is mainly from copying others and listening to advice of unqualified people, like Jacob did.

Copying others will not bring out the best in you. You are a peculiar person; fearfully and wonderfully made.

“I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made.” – Psalms 139:14 KJV

You are an original, dare to be unique!
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There are things that God has created in you that cannot be found in any other. Those things are the real beauty in you. They are the things that God used to draw your spouse to you. That is why what I call beautiful may not be so to you.

The entire world is waiting for you to manifest those things. Don’t copy others! Don’t do what they are doing! The fact it works for them does not guarantee it would work for you. Neither does it mean that anything which fails to work for them would not work for you.

Dare to be an original!
If you are not an original, you are a fake! It is better to be a celebrated king in your little home, than to be an uncelebrated imitation in another man’s kingdom.
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What would look so stunningly beautiful in another, may not look good on you.
Imagine a fat woman who decides not to play down her natural figure, but admires a slim woman wearing a mini-skirt and goes to make the same.
“Horrible”, you would say!
But imagine the same woman who accentuates her natural beauty by wearing a flowing skirt. She would no doubt look stately and attractive.
Copying others destroyers your creative ability as you would be too busy looking at others, to think of what is best for you.
Years ago, in the 70’s, at Adeniran Ogunsanya area of Surulere, Lagos, Nigeria, I was a pace-setter. I still am (Ah..hem, chuckle!).
Most children that lived in that area were from wealthy parents, who had between between three to four cars, because of the even and odd number plates driving-alternating days. My neighbours had easy access to money and could afford whatsoever they wanted: designer clothes, shoes, toys, magazines, etc. After school hours, we had morning and afternoon sessions then, each would push a car out from their compound and drive around, have fun and go shopping.
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Coming from a middle-class home, my father had only one car. I had no access to the luxury and affluence that others had, yet I was the pace-setter in fashion! How? Next week!
But know there is so so much in you that needs to be discovered. Remember, made in the image of God you are deeper than you know!

……. to be continued next week.


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“I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvellous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well.” – Psalm 139:14

She was in high spirits. The children, three of them were in institutions of higher learning and were away from home. Not until the end of the semester before they would come home again.
They were together alone as when they started; before the children started coming.
Her husband had gone to work and she knew by experience that he did not remember that day was their twenty-fifth wedding anniversary. They had surmounted the odds together: family pressures from both sides, financial pressures, business pressures, etc; pressures that threatened to tear them apart. but glory be to God for with every pressure came a greater strength and determination to continue. Every pressure had left them more bonded than before.
I was not easy, but looking back, she cannot but thank god for those times. for so the bible enjoins.

“In every thing give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you.” – 1 Thessalonians 5:18

She hurried with the cooking, after which she went to the salon to have her hair fixed. A particular hair-style  was on her mind and she asked for it. She had seen it on some other women and it was a breath-taking sight each time she saw it. That style was the rave of the moment. It made the wearer accepted in social circles as being “current” or up to date.
Some days earlier, she had gone to her dressmaker  and asked also for a particular design that she admired. it was a design in one of the international fashion magazines. A design that looked stunningly beautiful on the model.

She was all out to please her husband; to present her very best to him. The flame of love was still in their marriage and she desired to fuel it to burn bigger than before.
Back home, she set the food and dressed herself. Like a teenager going out on a date for the first time, she spent some time in front of the mirror, admiring her new hair-style and the new dress.
Not long afterwards, the door opened and her husband walked in. She flashed a genuine smile at him, savouring the shock and surprise written on his face.
He stood staring at her as though he had seen a ghost. His gaze went to her hair, down to her dress and finally their eyes locked.
“Surprise! Don’t you like it?”
“Like what?” His face squeezed into a frown.
“The hair, the dress!”
“What is that?” He asked in disgust.
Her shoulders drooped and her voice trembled.
“You, don’t like it?” She stammered, less confidently. She could feel her pride dissipating through the pores of her skin.
“You look ugly in that hair-style. And the dress looks……..” , he shook his head, not finding the proper word to use.
“Thank you” she said angrily storming into the room with tears brimming in her eyes.
So much for trying to please her husband.

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All she wanted was to excite her husband by bringing out the beauty in her.
However all she did was copy other people, and failed to be herself. She could not see herself, and so did not really bring out the beauty inside of her. She simply mirrored the beauty of some other women; women her husband did not marry and maybe did not fancy! She ought to have sought after what was best for her, not what was best on others; what her husband saw in her before asking her hand in marriage; at least it is said that beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

Like finger prints, there is a uniqueness about each individual person that is peculiar to just that one person. We may look alike, but not really the same. It is that uniqueness in people that we actually call “beauty”!

God hides this beauty, this uniqueness, for us to locate.

“It is the glory of God to conceal a thing: but the honour of kings is to search out a matter.”
Proverbs 25:2 KJV

Everyone is ugly, but potentially beautiful; till we have searched out this unique matter hidden in us!

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Many are in bondage to satan through “what will other people think of me?” And “what are others doing?”  They go about copying what others wear or do. Paul said that people who compare themselves with other people are not wise.
Many homes have been broken, not due to a lack of love, but for the demonstration of love which was not properly done!
Beloved, you are fearfully and wonderfully made! You are beautiful! Locate the beauty in you and accentuate it!
Remember, your discovery is your beauty!

to be continued next week.


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A man was known in his community because of his wisdom and intelligence. He met often with the other elders of the community and had a place of honour because of his contributions in advice and suggestions. He was proud of his standing, and did everything to maintain his integrity.
Moreover his children were known and his wife was honoured by all.

One day he called his wife and demanded to know where she brought one of their sons from. This sparked off a heated argument between the man and his wife, with the man insisting that the boy was not like him.

In looks, stature, complexion and character, the boy was his exact replica. So what was the issue? What could make a wise man behave so irrational? The boy failed an examination! He felt ashamed that his son would fail a major examination, and did not know how to defend it. He felt his ego had been punctured, making him disappointingly angry.

But why was he angry? He was guarding something: his good name.

In the military, training is given, with all its rigors and harshness, to mould the individual to fit and suit the image of the Force; thereby preserving its good name.

In school, children are taught in many ways and with various methods. Children who fail consecutively are asked to go; expelled. Why? The school has a name to protect.

Even in Church! Church? Yes. When an erring member refuses admonitions and warnings, and persists in breaking rules and commands, he gets excommunicated! Why? The name!

“A GOOD name is rather to be chosen than great riches, and loving favour rather than silver and gold.” – Proverbs 22:1

A good name is of greater value and should be chosen than silver and gold! No wealth of this world can compare to a good name!

“A good name is better than precious ointment; and the day of death than the day of one’s birth.” – Ecclesiastes 7:1

Ointment here talks of anointing. Just like wealth, anointing cannot compare to a good name! A person could be so anointed, if he does not have a good name, his anointing is polluted and counterfeit!
Samson was so anointed his birth was foretold. His reputation and anointing went before him but because he had no GOOD name, it was only a matter of time before he was brought down.

To be entrusted or conferred with the name of the military, a father, school or Church, you have to be patterned or trained to fit the mould (characteristics and pattern) of that name. Before full responsibility is given you in a work place, you have to be trained to fit into the company’s ways and policies.

Earthly fathers have been known to disown children and ask them not to use the family name because of the shame of their conduct.  They want to preserve the family’s good name, the integrity built over the years. Such steps are usually consequences for not conforming with the characteristics of the family.

To carry the name of our heavenly Father, you would have to be trained or discipled. Worldly characteristics would have to be washed or cleansed from you.

“Now ye are clean through the word which I have spoken unto you.” – John 15:3

That’s one reason we go to Church and are given the written word; that we might do away with the ways of the world and learn the ways of heaven.

“Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls.” – Matthew 11:29

Learning to be like Jesus is taking up the characteristics of God and being conformed to His Kingdom. This makes us sons.

Only sons carry the name of the family, servants don’t. God watches over and guards His name so jealously, that was why He warned Moses in Exodus 23, about his angel on whom He placed His name. He does not trust His name to just about anybody. And he that nameth the name of the Lord must depart from iniquity!

It is an awesome thing to carry the name of the Lord. That name goes with power, authority, favour, provisions: doors open to the one that carries His name, he is welcomed and celebrated, divine health and sound mind are companions of such a one. That was what Abraham received after God tried him. He swore by Himself to bless Abraham. It was His very name He put on the Patriarch!

It is a great honour and privilege to be called by His name. And a great responsibility to carry the name of the Lord.
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The reason you are going through what you are going through is because God loves you, and has chosen to put His name on you.

“For whom the Lord loveth He chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom He receiveth.” – Hebrews 12:6

God has not just chosen you but is preparing you to be called a son, not a child, so you might have the honour of carrying His name.
He has put you where you are, that you would be “chosen from the fire of affliction”!
Stop giving honour to the devil; he may be God’s instrument, but God is in charge. God rules in the affairs of men!

“If ye endure chastening, God dealeth with you as with sons; for what son is He whom the father chasteneth not?” – Hebrew 12:7

Know that you are a son! For God to bring out the best in you for His Name’s sake He has to “form and fashion” you to meet His specification or standard.
As a son you do not run but remain and endure hardness like a good soldier! Grit your teeth, toughen you body and “count it all joy when you fall into diverse temptations”!

Beloved, it may not be pleasant but God wants you to endure! It will soon pass! Be patient for as surely as the sun rises and morning comes, the season of tears will pass and a new season of joy shall come!
Stand firm and let the name of the Lord be glorified.


Love is the command on which hangs the Law and the Prophets (Matthew 22:34-40). Meaning, every scripture from Genesis to Revelation is about the love of God, which we are commanded to show others especially to those of the household of faith.
It is not measured by gifts, visitations, fasting and praying.

Love is the bond that holds the fruit of the Spirit together.
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Picture a dissected orange with all its segments; held together by a thick adhesive center that reaches even to the outer of all the segments in a bond of oneness.

“And above all these things put on charity, which is the bond of perfectness.” – Colossians 3:14


Like the various segments that make an orange, love has got segments or qualities that make it what it is; one fruit, but with segments. All these segments are interwoven, yet one.

QUALITIES OR SEGMENTS OF LOVE.

(1) Love is a cover.
Love has this tendency to forgive and forget offences.
A heart of true love over brims with such weight of love that makes offences insignificant. The power of love in the heart makes it possible to overlook offences, and not take them to heart.

“He that covereth a transgression seeketh love.” – Proverbs 17:9a

“Hatred stirreth up strifes: but love covereth all sins.” – Proverbs 10:12

(2) Love rebukes and corrects.
Love does not pass over an opportunity to rebuke, discipline and correct.

“For whom the Lord loveth He chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom He receiveth.” – Hebrews 12:6

It is one that does not love that would not correct.

(3) Love receives correction.
Love receives correction without bitterness or complains of trying to justify itself.

“But the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, and easy to be intreated, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality, and without hypocrisy. – James 3:17

(4) Love suffers long.
Love forebears with people. It endures the contradictions of others towards it without complaining, murmuring, resentment or bitterness.
It is not ashamed to wait for another and believes so much in the success of that other.

“Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up.” – 1 Corinthians 13:4

(5) Love is kind.
Love goes beyond giving things, to having a sympathetic thought about somebody. It thinks, acts and speaks good of another.

(6) Love does not envy.
Love does not harbour or entertain ill-feelings about another person’s prosperity, blessing or promotion. Rather, it rejoices with them.

“Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up,….. .., but rejoiceth in the truth.” – 1 Corinthians 13:4,6

(7) Love does not boast.
It does not speak boastfully, or exaggerate on his achievement.

“Charity ………. vaunteth not itself ……” –
1 Corinthians 13:4

(8) Love does not puff up.
It does not hold a high opinion of itself, nor have an undue sense of superiority over others.

“Charity ……….  is not puffed up.”
– 1Corinthians 13:4

Love is not full of self, neither does it act snobbish like a peacock.

(9) Love is not rude.
It does not act in a rude manner, or indecent with words. Love is polite and modest in all things.

“Doth not behave itself unseemly ……..” – 1Corinthians 13:5


(10) Love is not selfish.
Love does not seek to or impose itself on others. It does not dominate in conversations, or insist on having its way all the time.

“Love ……. seeketh not her own.” – 1 Corinthians 13:5

(11) Love is not easily provoked
It does not get angry too soon. Rather it tends to justify the offender.

Love “…….. is not easily provoked.” – 1 Corinthians 13:5

(12) Love thinks no evil.
It does not imagine or wish evil for anyone.

” …….. thinketh no evil.” – 1 Corinthians 13:5

(13) Love does not delight in evil.
It does not take sides to undo another. Neither does it desire to physically harm others, even under provocation.

“Love worketh no ill to his neighbour: therefore love is the fulfilling of the law.” – Romans 13:10

(14) Love forebears.
Love has the power or ability to bear or endure situations. It has self restrain.

“Beareth all things, ……… endureth all things.” – 1 Corinthians 13:7

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These are the very attributes of God.

“And the LORD passed by before him, and proclaimed, The LORD, The LORD God, merciful and gracious, longsuffering, and abundant in goodness and truth, Keeping mercy for thousands, forgiving iniquity and transgression and sin, and that will by no means clear the guilty; visiting the iniquity of the fathers upon the children, and upon the children’s children, unto the third and to the fourth generation.” – Exodus 34:6-7

And He desires to see these qualities in us; called the “Fruit of the Spirit”.

“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law.” – Galatians 5:22-23

These character traits are not home in man. The heart of man is deceitful and full of wickedness.
Yet God desires the fruit of the Spirit in His children.
We need to train or exercise ourselves to grow them. And since this is not humanly possible, the, “trainer”, the Holy Spirit is given to guide us.
May we cooperate with Him; that He may work into us the desire of our Father. It may be hard, long and painful, you may not get it even after so many times, but remember that the righteous, even the righteous, falleth seven times yet never stays down.
Lets not give up, and at the end we shall shine brighter than the Stars of heaven.


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We start exercising with the most preached, yet the most misunderstood message. LOVE. It is the easiest message to preach but the most difficult to practice.
Love is the central point of Jesus’ teaching, and the high point of chapters 13, 14, 15 and 16 of the book of John. A teaching that was not given to the multitude but to the core disciples.
In Matthew 5, as Jesus began His ministry, He gave the sermon on the mount to his core disciples.

“And seeing the multitudes, He went up into a mountain: and when He was set, his disciples came unto him: And He opened his mouth, and taught them.” – Matthew 5:1-2

Again at the closing of His earthly Ministry, He washed the feet of the core disciples (John 13), and in a teaching that covers four chapters, opens to them more about living in the spirit.
He told them of His going away, yet would be with them wherever they were. He talked about the Comforter, the promised Holy Spirit, and about the Father.
This was when Philip asked Him to show them the Father.
In answer, Jesus tells them about the Spirit connection between the Father and Himself, and how it shall be so between them (person to person), the Father and Himself.
All these He summarized possible by a commandment. The commandment to love.

Love is the climax of Christianity and the climax of spirit-life.
That is the reason Paul said “if I can move mountains but have no love, I am nothing.” (1 Corinthians 13)

Love is given as a commandment; as a commission, an order, a word of instruction authoritatively given, a mandate that must be carried out.
Love is not an option for Christians but a command!

“These things I command you, that ye love one another.” – John 15:17


Even to people who see us as their enemy, we are commanded to show love!
Someone takes your coat, you do not only have to show him love, you give him your cloak too!
Another insults you, disgraces you in public and takes your blanket; give him your bed too!
The person comes back to you thirsty; give him water to drink!
“It sounds crazy, why should I give drinking water to my sworn enemy?”
Its not your choice! Its a command.!

But what is love?
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When I come visiting I prove my love. No! Visitation does not prove love. One can visit with anger and hatred in the heart. Visitation is no love!

When I give gifts I prove my love. Again no! I can give you every beautiful thing in the this world, yet not love! Many have given gifts for the purpose of blinding and gagging the recipient. No, giving gifts is not love!

“Well, I feed the poor.” Sorry, but that is not love either! “Eat and drink, saith he to thee; but his heart is not with thee.” – (Proverbs 23:7b)
I have seen men who fed others with the intention of destroying them. No, feeding others is not love!

Some fast and pray for others and call it love. Again I say no! The fact you prayed and fasted for someone and another knows disqualifies it from being love. Many have fasted and prayed for others, to prove spiritually superior or to keep them around! No, fasting and praying for others is not love!

“Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, and have not charity, I am become as sounding brass, or a tinkling cymbal. And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries, and all knowledge; and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, and have not charity, I am nothing. And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned, and have not charity, it profiteth me nothing. – 1 Corinthians 13:1-3

Love is not an outward show! Something done for others, for some to see! No!
Love is an inside demonstration: a thing of the heart done WITHOUT A GAIN TO SELF!
Love is not caring about yourself while laying your life down for other.

“Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends.” – John 15:13

Love gives. Yes! It gives, not just things. It gives itself!
It does not give its “body”, but its very being; its very life.
Love gives itself for another!

“For God so loved the world, that He gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” – John 3:16

God gave His all, His very being. In human terms, God gave His posterity, His future.
Made in His image and likeness, we should be like Him.
Let’s exercise our senses to love without pretence, and with all sincerity; for God our Father is Love.