“He that hath no rule over his own spirit is like a city that is broken down, and without walls.” – Prov. 25:28
While we are still in this side of creation or life there would always be things that will threaten our emotions. Good things and bad things; even happiness can kill!
Things that happen to us that make us either go closer to God or stay far from Him come through our emotions: envy, jealousy, anger, hatred, lust, strife, gluttony, variance, etc, come through our emotions and overcome us if we do not cast or pull them down. (2Cor. 10:5).
A person that cannot control his spirit, attitude or emotion is like a city without walls.
Emotion and desire walk together like Drivers and Conductors. While Conductors welcome us into the vehicles, Drivers drive us off.
Unchecked EMOTIONS welcome us into strife, envy, lust, anger, gluttony, and other evils. The DESIRE to please ourselves and assert our “rights”, drive us from the presence of God. (James.1:14-16)
When people carry false rumour about you, your emotion is stirred up for defence. When slapped, emotionally, you desire to retaliate. Feeling the opposite gender sitting close to you awakens an emotion in you. If you cannot control yourself you are like a city that is broken down and without walls.
The heroes of the old Testament did. With a better covenant God expects you to!
Twice God handed Saul to David, but he exercised self-control and spared him on both occasions. (1 Sam.24:1-5;26:1-11)
Joseph had the opportunity of sleeping with the most powerful woman in the then world, but he controlled himself. He said “how then can I do this great wickedness, and sin against God?”
Daniel and his three friends had the opportunity of feeding fat on the King’s food. But they controlled themselves.
Jesus kept mute when first, the Chief Priest questioned Him. And secondly, when Pilate did. He controlled Himself.
It is in self control that we are able to deny ourselves, and enthrone the will of God. In self control, we are able to overcome our human tendencies no matter how appealing, so that we can please God. it is in self-control that we prove our love for God. This is where integrity and uprightness spring from.
Emotion is like the shell of an egg and needs to be strengthened or fortified. By:
(1) Getting to know who we are in Christ – kings! Kings do not argue or fight over trivial matters! They give commands, orders!
(2) Kings are principled! Set your principles: your “do’s and don’t’s”. And  stick to them.
(3) Have value for things! David valued Saul’s life; Joseph valued the life of Portiphar’s wife, though she never valued her life. Place a high value on other people, esteem them, others better and you will be valued. If you do not value things, heaven would not value you!
(4) Greatest of all, fear God. Develop the fear of the Lord. Be conscious of His presence. Joseph was, David was, Jesus was; we should all be. Solomon calls it the conclusion of the WHOLE matter.
“Let us hear the conclusion of the whole matter: Fear God, and keep his commandments: for this is the whole duty of man.” – Ecclesiastes 12:13
End of discussion!